POSTURED FOR SUCCESS...GOD'S WAY

     Women today are historically unlike any of her predecessors as our focus is on independence and individuality. In a high-tech society the world is at our fingertips. We have the ability to change everything from a stock portfolio to a couch cover with the click of a mouse yet within our lives we are losing the vision of destiny and purpose that was designed for us since the beginning of time.
     Although times and values have changed, God's purpose for you has not. Your age is of no consequence in God's Kingdom either. Some of you think you're too old to be of value, but it is quite the opposite. You've had to travel a lot miles to gain the experience and maturity needed to do what you need to so embrace the beauty and maturity you have. If you don't love you, you cannot love anyone else. Single or married, children or no children, God has a purpose for your life. You just need to be willing and obedient to His call. When you cultivate a relationship with Him, you're able to see everything in your life differently. He won't let you down. Your husband or boyfriend might, and your kids may drive you nuts, but there is a Peace that will help you through it all. His Grace is sufficient for you.
     You know there is something for you but you can't put your finger on it. Well, it's destiny calling. God seems a million miles away from your daily regimen; between changing the diapers, washing dishes or being in the boardroom you're distracted and just do not have time. But that nagging down within you won't go away. What you're fighting, is God wanting to position you where you need to be. He is ready to move you into a new realm of liberty that will empower and impart excellence into every facet of your life. What do you need to do you ask? Thought you'd never ask....you need to begin to: 

PRAY, ASK, BELIEVE, FORGIVE

Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins. Mark 11:24-25 (NIV)


TRUST HIM
     
  Trust in the Lord with all your heart
   and lean not on your own understanding;
6   in all your ways submit to him,
   and he will make your paths straight. Prov 3:5-6 (NIV)

BE OBEDIENT

 Does the Lord delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices
  as much as in obeying the Lord? To obey is better than sacrifice,
  and to heed is better than the fat of rams. 1 Samuel 15:22 (NIV)

LISTEN

   I will listen to what God the Lord says;
    he promises peace to his people, his faithful servants—
    but let them not turn to folly. Psalm 85:8 (NIV)

SURRENDER

Surrender your heart to God, turn to him in prayer,
14 and give up your sins—even those you do in secret.
15 Then you won’t be ashamed; you will be confident
and fearless. Job 11:13-15 (CEV)

I realize this seems very simplistic in a pessimistic world. But I love seeing God's Supernatural work in the natural. Faith and belief are ACTION words. You cannot not do something and expect Him to do everything. YOU CAN DO THIS! I have faith that you will. Will you experience trials and tribulation? Of course you will, but He gives you the strength.

Do me a favor. No matter what, never give up. Never listen to naysayers, they are hurting inside too. If people speak against you, so what, you don't need their opinions to validate who you are as a person.

Take action, take that 100% leap of faith and see what He will do for you.

Success is a heart matter, so posture God's way...Ninja Hugs! ~M

THERE IS A SEASON FOR EVERYTHING

Obviously it has been quite awhile since I have posted on here. As with everyone else, life happens.We think that we make plans, but God's plan isn't always ours.
I had stepped away from writing for whatever reason, but it boils down to the season I am in.
Thank goodness I didn't actually publish some of the things I was writing! That season in my life was not a good one!
For two years, I have been battling "hell" in a personal way...if you had a child with cancer you would be too. Just sayin'.
However, with the many changes going on, I'm actually to a point where I will be doing some writing, and I believe it is boiling down to a historical novel I began 4 years ago. 
It is a Time Travel romance, yet it will deal with 21st Century issues and problems, just smack dab in the middle of the past.
Also, I've been asked about "Avery" from "The Arena"...she is shelved for the moment but I see her story developing at some point.
Anyway, I was checking in to let you all know that I did not forget you and I am looking forward to getting some writing done.
Have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy and safe New Year.
2015 is the year of Manifestation! God has promised you things, and it's time to see things come to pass.
Ninja Hugs! 
~M

COMING SOON - INSTALLMENT #3 OF "THE ARENA"

I've been a little busy these days, but installment #3 of The Arena is right around the corner! I'm not sure where Avery is headed just yet, but you can bet she's in for some trouble!
I remember being that age too. My parents were not like Avery's and my childhood was less than perfect. But I will say this, if I could have my mom back that would be the best gift ever. I have to wait until Jesus comes back, but that's okay. Avery, well, she's going to have to wait longer than that.
Well peeps, talk to ya soon!
Monua

SO YOU WANT TO CHANGE THE WORLD EH?

Many people want to change the world. Cool, great. So do I. But let me ask you this. Why? What do you have to contribute to humanity? Is it through a good book? Movie? Blog? What? 

For sure all of the above has changed our world in one way or another whether good, bad or indifferent.
But what's been going through my mind is this. You want to set the world on fire and "make a difference", but you can't make a difference in your own household.

You want to know what changes the world? First off...your life. How you live it from the inside out. Secondly, the bi-product of that life that is an example to your kids, grandkids, co-workers, etc. 

Changing the world is a wonderful thing. But let me ask, are you SELFLESS enough to do it? Is Honor, Integrity, Loyalty and Courage the fabric of your character? 

Do the people around you know you for being self-centered and shallow? Or do they see someone who walks humbly yet strong, non-judgmental of others, giving, able to get past your own dysfunction and critical ways?

Changing the world in a manner that is productive to humanity starts with knowing yourself on a "soulular" level. And if you do not like what you see, then let the Lord change it. 

Next, success. Hmmm. Success isn't the amount of money you have in your bank account. Success is right character and your kids or those that know you looking up to you because you took time building into them. Success is being able to look in the mirror at yourself and knowing you've done the right things for the right reasons. Success is getting past yourself and seeing others through the eyes of forgiveness and wisdom. And those are just a few things.

How many of our young people have parents who are working constantly to make a buck instead of taking five minutes to sit and just chat with their kids. Do your kids see you living an upright life at home? Or do they look at you with a jaded sense of "is that what adulthood is all about?"

Changing the world eh? 

Is the end result of your endeavor money? Fame? Let me ask you this. Would you still want to change the world if it didn't make you a dime and you never made it on the best seller list?

Success is not all "good looks" either. That's called genes. Not hard work. I agree with something "Chris" Ashton Kutcher said recently..."The sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap!" . 

Looks fade and withers over time like a lot of things do. When you rely on external things to validate your individuality, you don't have much. Just sayin'. And when other people's opinion validates you, you have serious issues.

Book of Monua says, embrace who God made you to be, then help others along the way.

Everyone has a destiny and a purpose...fulfill it.

Just a thought... ~M

I hope all of you had a safe and Happy Thanksgiving!
I, along with many others suffered from a turkey coma LOL! Good food, good company...that's a true blessing. Even though I wasn't able to be with a few people I hold dear, the day was still super.
2013 has passed so quickly! Hard to believe Christmas is only weeks away. So many things to do and so many things can happen in between. For me, I am refusing to get caught up in the craziness of the masses at the mall. Life has too many important things to be concerned about; and besides, sitting at my fave coffee place writing a blog with a great cup of joe does it for me. It also keeps me halfway sane in an insane world. Come on, you 'd love to be doing the same thing so just chill.
Now, back to The Arena.
After two segments, it's amazing to me the questions and speculations about what is to come. 
Although Avery is a fictional character, she may remind you of someone you know or know of. That's what stories are all about. Even if the story is fiction there is usually a little truth to them. A good story keeps the questions going :)
I hope to publish another installment soon (because I'm not exactly sure the twists and turns to come). This is a "shoot from the hip" story; okay, my author friends would probably call me crazy...but then again I'm not exactly conventional am I?
Well peeps, until the next time, have a super and safe weekend.
~M

The Arena - Christmas Eve Monua Cary 2013 Copyright

My brain is revved up these days about writing. Although I may not be very good at it, there is always room for storytelling. To each his own I suppose.
This particular story started about 30+ years ago in one form or another. A little over a decade ago I put together one page. So here we are. Where do I go from here who knows; it is what it is.
Again, this is going to be in pieces.....so here is another "Piece"...enjoy.

The Arena

Monua Cary

©2013

Christmas Eve

As boring as home life was on a regular basis, today took the absolute cake Avery thought. Boring boring boring! If she could shout it from every corner of the house she would! “My family is so lame!” Avery’s thoughts screamed. Restriction sucks regardless of why, she thought as she paced the floor in her bedroom. The walls seemed to close in around her. Kicking the clothes that laid precariously on the floor, she took little satisfaction as they hurled through the air and silently into the far wall.
“Avery, you know you were wrong in not telling us you went to Bryan’s house without our permission. It isn’t proper for a young lady. In my day..” “I don’t care what you did in your day!” Avery screamed at her mother. “I’m not a kid anymore! You and dad just don’t want me to have a life! I’m tired of you guys controlling my life! I hate you!” turning, she stormed down the hall to her room. Life was just so unfair! Bryan was her best friend and he always had her back. Up until today that is. His dad was the deacon in the church, and no matter what Bryan did, his dad always took up for him. Bryan could get by with murder and his dad would smooth it over. So when they got caught at his house alone without his parents knowing, and of course her mom definitely not knowing, all hell broke loose. Okay, maybe the vodka bottle and glasses on the table along with a little weed was wrong, but hey, it’s our life right? We’re young adults and perfectly able to take care of our own business! Righhhhhtttt. So what does Bryan do? That weasel tells his dad it was my idea! “NOW I’m GROUNDED and my life is OVER!” she yelled to Bryan from her moms’ cell phone, which she conveniently swiped in her tirade down the hall to her room. “Don’t be such a girl Avery, it will all blow over and everything will be back to normal. I’ll talk to my dad and he’ll talk to your dad, and voila! All done.”
“Dude, you have no idea what you’ve done! My mom will KEEP me grounded til I graduate! You threw me under the freakin’ bus man, and I’m really ticked off! How could you do that to me?” “Avery listen, It’s all ok, okay? Trust me chica, have I ever not come through?” Bryan was smooth, and Avery couldn’t resist his charm. He was her best friend after all, and yeah he messed up sometimes, but things got fixed one way or another. His dad also had clout at church and so maybe things would get patched up soon. He’d talk to her parents. But there was that nagging thought about mom. Mom meant what she said and restriction meant just that…no life for who knows how long! Avery could deal with her mom being such a tough case, but when it came to her dad, she couldn’t stand the look of disappointment on his face when she screwed up.  He was her rock, and pillow to soften the blow of moms’ sentencing. Derek McFadden was her hero. Tall, dark and handsome….”for a parent” she thought wryly. Dad was as honest as the day was long. If there really were Christians out there, her dad was the real dealio. Not like Bryan’s dad, the deacon; who always seemed to twist things around to make it seem right. She had to give her parents credit for something, Bryan’s dad was creepy. They were wrong about Bryan though. He was gorgeous and smart. Captain of the football team, he could have any girl at school he wanted, and he wanted ME. He was a real life Thor in the flesh. Mom said “he wants something you shouldn’t give Avery. You’re a lovely young lady and deserve respect. Boys like him only want one thing, and then they’ll be done with you and move on to the next girl. He isn’t a nice boy”….”NICE?” dude! He was nice, and handsome and so…so…perfect! Mom was totally wrong!
“And now I’m freaking grounded!” yelling once again, hoping her parents would hear her loud and clear from the kitchen.
“I’ve got to get outta here! But how?”  
A light tapping on her door, Avery looked over at the closed entrance to her room. “They can all go pound salt for all I care!” keeping those thoughts locked inside of her brain and not onto her tongue…that would mean forever shackled to this room!
“Avery?” her dad said softly. “Av? Can you hear me hon?”  “Crap!” she thought. Dad always called her Av, sounded like Abe, but with a V. Calling her Av always made her calm and feel…well, feel loved. Like being wrapped in a down blanket on a wintry day by the fire. Dad could always soothe her fears and keep her from completely going berserk; unlike her mother who was always preaching to her about Jesus and His love, and getting saved; all that Christian stuff. Didn’t her mom know she wasn’t interested in Jesus right now. She had plenty of time to think about Christianity. Maybe when she got older and life was almost over, she might. Whatever. It always made her upset when Mrs. Susan McFadden would make her feel like she was always going to hell for something. Mom was Miss Perfect! Never said a bad word in her life probably!
Tap tap, “Av?”, “yeah dad I’m here.” Her staunch resolve melting for the bazillionth time, she opened the door to find her dad smiling that perfect smile of his. Reaching his arms to her, he pulled her into a big hug. “C’mon, let’s go have some of those cookies your mom has been slaving over”, kissing her on the forehead and down the hall they went. “I love you dad, but this is far from over!” she thought as she put her arm around the only hero that walked the earth…well, except Bryan of course.

To be continued......

 

The Arena - Monua Cary Copyright 2013

As I mentioned awhile back, I am writing a "blog story"...it will show up in pieces but I am having fun writing. Pardon the grammatical errors, it's storytelling, not english class LOL!

Enjoy.....


PROLOGUE

The concrete was cold and hard, pebbles were burrowing into the soft skin of her back and arms. The discomfort was nothing compared to the pain from her swollen and bruised jaw, thanks to Bryan, her so-called best friend and ally.
What day is it? Time? How long has it been since....It was holiday season wasn't it? A time when families came together in love and lots of great food. When moms and dads, "oh God I miss them" Avery anguished, would tell stories and bring presents. She could smell the cookies in the oven, and her mouth watered at the thought. When was the last time she ate? It's been days? A flashback of dad smiling while he served his famous cocoa. The warmth from the fireplace that separated the living room from the kitchen. Okay, mom had that awful Christmas music blaring; "what I would give to go back to that moment". With her Bible in one hand and a cookie in the other, mom would sit us down in the living room and read the Christmas Story to her and Katie, the little blonde haired cherub who called her "her big Sissie". The tree was fabulous. One of those pine trees that stood majestic above all others, painstakingly decorated by her and her family. The ceiling in the living room was 20 feet and the tree, Angel at the top, almost touched it. There must have been a couple of hundred ornaments and a thousand lights, all alight as if to shout the Glory of the Season. It was a time of being thankful for God's Provision mom said. A time to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, the One Who came to save His people from their sins.
"Yeah right, You took my family from me"...as the tears fell freely down her cheeks. Shaken out of her vision of past happiness by the rattling of keys, Avery was torn back to reality.
She felt very cold, not from the room, but from the terror you felt when a predator was about. The hair stands up on your body and your stomach tightens and nausea threatens to take over.
Feeling alone and very vulnerable, she looked up at the ceiling, "why can't I feel you now?" "hopeless, you don't exist do You?" as she shook her head.
"No, He doesn't Avery", a voice crackled from the speaker mounted in the wall on the other side of the room. "Avery, we can help you. Forget about that Bible stuff. You can be free, just say the word. Your mom and dad would be proud of you". "Bryan? Bryan is that you?". Barely able to sit up due to lack of sleep and food, she sat upright with a start. She'd kill Bryan if she could.
"No, it's daddy". This time she bolted to her feet and hobbled as quickly as her bruised body would allow til she stood directly underneath the black speaker box. DADDY! Is it true? Maybe he was here to rescue her from this hell! Maybe God missed him or left him on earth to whisk her away to safety!
Could it be?
"Daddy?"........

WHEN CANCER HITS....YOU ARE NOT ALONE

I have had many friends and family hit with cancer; some survived, some didn't. It is a loss that can only be understood by those affected by it. Cancer is an ugly word, and it brings a bleakness with it that teeters on a wall of faith and unbelief at the same time. A hope that may or may not play out like we want it to. 
Never having cancer myself, I don't know the feeling. I can't understand the earth shattering realization of a diagnosis that can bring utter hopelessness and the full force of ones mortality right up in your face. No, I don't know the anxiety of having doctors appointments up the wazoo or the pain of a bone marrow test. The physical inconvenience of a chemo-port is unimaginable let alone the taste of chemicals during many hours of treatment for months on end. Then there is the fatigue, nausea, throwing up and body pain that the cancer itself brings. Tons of medications day after day...
No, I don't understand.
But...what I do understand is, the sheer terror a mother feels when her only child tells her that they have cancer. Regardless of the survival rate, there is always the percentage of those who didn't make it. Having Faith that they will be healed...or not. Trying to put on a brave face when they are so positive and you're going through an emotional hell.
Every time you see a picture of your child, you are reminded of the innocence they had and no matter how old they are, that's who you see, your baby, your child.
The feelings of hopefulness...and helplessness. 
The importance of supporting your child and keeping as much stress away from them as possible, and forgetting sometimes that although they look "okay", they aren't. 
I know these feelings well. The times when all you can do is rub their back, make soup, or run out in the middle of the night for meds and special needs. 
No matter how well things are going, there is a nagging "what if" in the back of your mind. Maybe you're enjoying a movie or music, or just working, then out of nowhere something triggers full on tears. 
Thoughts are powerful. Feelings are powerful. Faith is powerful. Doubt is powerful.
I just want to encourage you that these feelings are normal. It's okay. You will make it. Be the support they need. Love them, hold them. Never let a day go by that you don't tell them you love them. Life is precious. My child is in a healing pattern and I'm thankful for every moment he is in my life. Keep your chin up. I understand your pain as a parent and as a support person. Life throws nasty curve balls, but throw them right back. 
When you're feeling like hell has broken loose, there are those of us who will help hold your arms up. We've been there and we will help you through it. Through the emotions. At least I will. You will make mistakes, that's par for the course. You won't do everything right, that's okay too. You won't always be a perfect support, get over it. Just remember... YOU ARE NOT ALONE....

RELEVANCE TO IRREVERENCE

I read an article recently about why young people leave the church, and it totally hit the proverbial "nail on the head"; however  I want to take this subject a little further.  

First off, I am not blasting people or church, and I am not being judgmental. Each of us will answer to God for our lives. In saying that, I will now continue.... :)

The church is trying to "fit in" and be "cool" and in doing so, our attempt to be relevant in a world who needs Jesus, can turn into "irreverent". How? do you ask. Let's start with: Holiness. If we mirror the world in ways that we are supposed to be set apart, why would the world want to change? If our form of dress, conversation, lifestyle, how we treat others, and "accountability quotient" reflects an unchanged life, well, only you know who you are. 

We serve a Holy God, and He doesn't conform to 21st Century social mindsets and graces; although the world constantly tries to tailor God to their image. He said that He changes not, and that He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. The difference the church makes will only come about when we know who we are in Christ and live as the individual He called us to be for Him, not Him for us. Are we in relationship or religion?

People are seeking fulfillment in their heart, a stability and peace that they can't put their finger on. We are wired for a spiritual relationship with our Heavenly Father and the only way the world can see Him is through us. The Holy Spirit draws people to Jesus, we don't. You might have a great worship team and a dozen programs going on all week (there isn't anything wrong with that), but the fact remains, are you living a Spirit-Filled life so that others are drawn by your witness to the One who called you?
In compromising holiness, your actions can be not only irrelevant, but eventually irreverent because of trying to please people by being "cool". People really don't desire that believe it or not. As Christians, we don't fit in. The Bible says the world will HATE us for His namesake. Guess what? That isn't the popular place to be is it? The Bible also says that if you're friends with the world you are an ENEMY of God. 

Here is another way we should be different: John 13:35 says "By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another."  If we are bickering among one another, hating one another, talking about one another, the love of Christ isn't there. In fact, 1 John 3:15 calls anyone who hates their brother or sister (in the Lord) a murderer. And 1 John 4:20 states that if you say you love God and hate your brother you are a liar. Pretty harsh? I didn't say it, the Lord did, take it up with Him.

I understand that there are ministries out there who are in it to make money, and it is shameful. So at this juncture I want to encourage you to examine your life. Are you living a life set apart for the Lord? Is church a routine? Are your prayers dry and you feel unfulfilled? Paul said he died daily. You will be tested, you will face challenges. You will never "measure up" to the worlds' standards and life is going to be rough. Til you draw your last breath you will face many things. But you know what? You CAN do all things through CHRIST who strengthens you. If you draw near to God, He WILL draw near to you.
Remember, it's relationship not religion.

Don't get caught up with the "Joneses", you really won't be happy if you're too busy trying to please others instead of trying to please God. Let your actions speak louder than anything you have to say. Trust me when I say, people are watching your life when you claim to be a Christian. Christian means you are a follower of Christ and that you are to be like Him....it may seem like your family or your co-workers aren't paying attention, but they are. They may give you a bad time and make your life miserable, but they watch you like a hawk. People really want to know if there is a stability and wholeness in the world, and to know if God really exists and He is Who He says He is. So, they watch YOU because you are an ambassador and representative of the Kingdom of God. 

In closing, if you are not living the Lords' best for your life, and you know you're missing out on a relationship with Him like you should have, I would like to pray with you....

"Jesus, you know my heart. I've been away a long time and I don't know you like I should. I'm sorry and I ask your forgiveness. Spirit of the Lord, please draw my heart back to where it needs to be, in relationship with my Savior. Help me to be who I need to be, teach me and guide me, comfort me. Lord, you are awesome and I praise your Holy name. Father, I love you and I thank you for your mercy and your goodness. Create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within me. In Jesus name, Amen

My heart is to see the church being about the Fathers' business; that we lead by example and live in relationship with our Lord so that the world will see a light in these dark times.

May the Lord keep you safe and in His love, ~M

OFFENDED CHRISTIANS - No, you don't get your own corner of Heaven

Oft times when I get ticked off about something, I have to have an outlet. And writing seems to do it for me. In fact I co-authored a book on Personal Accountability and Responsibility because I was really mad about the lack of same in regards to high ranking martial artists. By the way, I am a 7th degree Black Belt myself, which allows an older broad like myself the platform to do that sort of thing.

So here I am again...ticked off at people who have offense in their heart towards others and think it's okay. Like they're going to have their own corner of Heaven to stay away from the folks they couldn't stand on Earth. Let me fill you in on a little secret, don't get all comfy thinking you're going to make it there at all if you have offense or hatred in your heart towards a brother or sister in the Lord. 

But Monua, they did this or that...so what. If you don't let it go you put yourself in a position above God. Yeah, I said that. See, when we accept Jesus as our Savior, He forgives us of our sins. He can do that. Now, if you think you're the Savior and can hold sins against others, you basically are delusional not to mention in spiritual trouble. Have I dealt with this? Oh yeah. Many times. Just when I thought I was over something, that person came around or did their usual "stuff" and that upset rose up in my emotions. Which meant I hadn't forgiven them. I had to repent, again. 

This is the dealio, let it go. If you offended someone, go to them and apologize. If they accept it great! If not, then it's on their head not yours. Move on. Don't allow yourself to be in a self-imposed emotional prison over it any longer. Visualize letting it go and handing it over to God.

I know people who still hold past marriage crap against their ex...and the ex is a Christian. And that person is supposed to be a Christian themselves! Really?! 

No, you don't get to avoid them in Heaven, if you even make it there! Make it right here so you can avoid a whole lot of trouble in the future.

Yeah, I'm being real here folks. Get over your offense. Pray about it and let it go. There are times when things won't get rectified with the other person. It is what it is. But your destiny and purpose is more important than other people's hangups. Simple as that.

This is where I back up what I'm teaching you, with Scripture. By the way, if you don't believe in the Bible or Jesus, that's okay too. But trust me when I say, that disease can follow hatred, and so does depression. Just sayin'....don't defeat your own purpose by cutting off your nose to spite your face.

Anyway, 1 John 4:20 says "If someone says, "I love God," but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is a liar; for if we don't love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?"NLT.

1 John 2:9 says if you say you're in the light and you hate your brother you're still in darkness.

So do us all a favor, stop calling yourself a follower of Christ if you are rude and mean and say bad things about other believers. It's not up to you to be judge and jury. In fact, you're placing judgement on your own head. Just sayin' .

Treat others how you want to be treated. However, I'm not saying you have to go buy curtains with these people, just be cool. Be a good example of how Christ wants you to be. Pray for them and ask God to fix it. Be courteous, and let your actions be top drawer. But do yourself a favor, let it go. It's rough and unpleasant, but people will be people and you can't change anyone but YOU.

I totally understand this situation so I'm speaking from experience. I still deal with it. But I found that asking the Lord to fix it takes a huge burden off of my heart. It would be great if we could all just get along with each other. But reality is reality and not everyone is going to like you or forgive you or be nice to you...even if you apologize or be nice to them or whatever amends you do.

Trust me when I say, I hold my Christian brothers and sisters to account. Have you ever been embarrassed because a family member was acting like a total bonehead? Well, some of you need to stop making the rest of your "family" look bad and straighten up. 

Just because you go to a burger shop doesn't make you a hamburger, so just because you go to church and look and act good, doesn't make you a true Believer or Christian. 

Accountability is doing the right things the right way and for the right reasons. Personal Accountability and Responsibility is moment by moment for a lifetime. Your destiny and legacy depend on it. Humanity needs people who are productive in building into the lives of others. Whether or not you belong to a particular faith or no faith at all even.

But yes, this is written mainly to my Christian family. Straighten up and fly right, like my mom would say.

So, in closing, I would like to encourage you to reflect on what you might be doing to hold yourself back. Offense is a huge destiny blocker. It keeps you in a prison you can't see. That's how unforgiveness works peeps. It hurts you and affects everyone else around you.

Be the "bigger" person. Be the example to your family and friends that you should be. Trust me when I say, it isn't words that make a person. In fact, shut up and let your life do the speaking.

Just a thought :) ~M

MY OPINION ON THE TRAGIC STORY REGARDING TRAYVON MARTIN

Today the leader of the free world spoke about how "this could have been him 35 years ago". And after reading the article on MSNBC, I had to agree to some extent. My Pastor is a black man and I happen to know that because of the color of his skin, people (depending on the neighborhood) have shown the type of behavior exemplified in what the media has been touting since Zimmerman was found not guilty.
I believe that what happened was a tragic loss of life that should never have happened. I believe Zimmerman was stupid and acted out of stupidity and disregard for another human being. In my opinion he acted irresponsibly with his own life, because it could have turned out the other way. But, the Judicial system that our Country has, said not guilty, and that is to be respected to a high degree. I have a son with cancer and the thought of losing him terrifies me. Now, I also understand what it is like to lose a family member to senseless violence. With a firearm, and in a restaurant. My stepbrother wasn't black, he was half Mexican, and the "crush" of my life. Now, the difference I see here is, did we rile up the city against each other because of what happened? Did we cause riot or strife in our grief? Did we bring up race or color of skin? I reply with a resounding NO!
I grew up in the hood. My friends were Native American and most of them were Black, and my "Aunt" was black; and her kids were my cousins (not blood but close enough!) You might say my family was "color-blind". We lived by judging people by their character, not the color of their skin.
There is no amount of political agenda or riot or anything negative, that will bring back to life this young man. I grieve with his family.
But, in America, thousands of underprivileged young people are exploited, murdered and sold for human trafficking because of the blind eye of your everyday joe-schmoe. And those in power refuse to raise a hand to help (of course this is my own observation and opinion). Will harder gun laws stop violence with a firearm? That's like saying alcoholics will stop killing people with their cars. Bad people do bad things with whatever they have because why? Because they do not have a respect for human life.
What I see happening here is not compassion for this young man or the hell his parents are going through. I see an agenda to push legislation through that some people were not able to in the first place.
I also see women being forced back into silence from their abusers because they will no longer be able  to legally, justifiably, protect themselves with a firearm. I say this because the talk of the day is going against the "stand your ground" law. When I grew up, you just plain protected yourself and the justice system weighed the circumstances, period. Seems we have a name for everything these days.
"Balance" cannot be legislated. Personal Accountability and Responsibility cannot be legislated. Turning Americans against one another is not the answer.
What we need to be doing is living our lives by EXAMPLE, in true Honor, Integrity, Loyalty and Courage. How do we do that? One person at a time. You see, Personal Accountability and Responsibility is moment by moment for a lifetime. Future generations are counting on us to lead the way. But if we lead the way with a legislative leash around our necks, all you will get is rebellion and division.
Let's start figuring out WHO we are as individuals before we dictate how others should be. You are not going to be able to embrace the individuality of others or absorb their weaknesses if you don't confront yourself. History has great examples to follow: Jesus, Gandihi, Martin Luther King Jr.; it's not impossible. Personally, I am a follower of Jesus; but I learn many things from great men like I previously mentioned. They LIVED it, they walked the talk.
In closing let me say this. Division can only cause degeneration and degradation, but Unity will be the solution for a multitude of issues of the day.
Let us reason together in our grief. Not only for this young man, but for everyone who is suffering in our Great Land we call America. Let's be the solution, not the problem.
Just a thought... ~M

I'M BACK AND LOTS OF THINGS ARE GOING ON!!!!!!

Hello all!

I decided to do the unthinkable and close my Facebook page!!!

Which means I will be doing things semi-old fashioned for now, and actually try to communicate in a more personal way.

What I have decided to do is concentrate on articles, short stories, and what's going on in my world.

Some of it will be of help...and some won't, but that's cool. 

Each of us travel a road that will hopefully intersect with one another at some point, so I hope to see and hear from y'all soon!

I am sooooo looking forward to writing more and sharing my thoughts with you!

Have a super rest of your week!

Monua Cary

TRENDS = FRIENDS

Have you ever been on the receiving end of criticism regarding your fashion style? Or maybe the way you wear your hair, the car you drive...and god forbid...the kind of dog you own! At some point in your life you have or you still do. And for what? Tell me, what is the whole purpose? The answer is, so you can be popular and accepted. Really? I have a feeling I'm headed for a rant. Look around you, listen to the news or read the headlines. What is the number one topic these days? Bullying, that's what is topping blogs, news, and mindsets. Now you tell me, why? Because of how someone looks or talks, or what they're wearing. On one hand you've got the soccer mom who's pissed off because some kid made fun of her kid, but on the other side of the conversation she's rolling her eyes at the dreadful way her neighbor wears her makeup. What I'm finding here is people who are out of balance with WHO they are. Frankly, most people have no idea who they are. Social media tells you that this season you have to do this or that, or look this way or that, and if you don't you will not be popular or gain new friends. Excuse me, but the last time I looked, I was born into a free country to look and be who I wish to be. My individuality isn't for sale peeps. And....here's the clincher...I don't need YOUR opinion to validate who I am as a person! Each of us are unique in every way imaginable. If you ask me, some people are more concerned with what attire they're wearing on the outside than the attitude they carry on the inside. And it's that kind of attitude that breeds contempt for others individuality. If blue was the only color in the world, or purple the only color skin, this world would be a very boring place to live. What makes life exciting is the variety of creation and everything that encompasses fruition of creativity! Seriously people, if you want to be enslaved by the current trends of social mediocrity, that's your deal. But as for me, I love the fact that I can look all around me and see the beauty of humanity with all of its flaws, and in all of its unique grandeur. If it takes putting me into a social cookie cutter to be accepted...well I guess I'm just going to have to pass on that. There are others out there who feel the same as I do, but they haven't taken that step of faith into the realization that they were born unique and that their destiny on this planet was designed specifically for them and them alone to fulfill. I want to encourage you today, to stop and take a look around you. Inhale the wonder of the world around you and realize that you are not alone. Your individuality is what makes you so special. So what if you're not into the latest styles. Who cares if your car isn't the newest, or your house isn't considered chic on the block. Just change your mind and believe, that it just doesn't matter. You are who you are. Obviously we can all make alterations in our lives to be the best "us" we can be. Because humanity counts on us to pave the way for the next generation to benefit from our legacy. What do you have to offer? Maybe little in the eyes of some, but in the big picture, you matter. And your life does directly effect someone somewhere. It's your choice as to how you want to impact humanity; good, bad, or indifferent. Either way, you will in some manner. Just remember. You are YOU and you are special and unique and I applaud you for it. All it takes is realizing that you add to the variety and beauty of this world and no one can take that from you unless you allow it. Your choices are that...your choices. So, I encourage you to make the choice to be a person of Honor, Integrity, Loyalty and Courage. These things last forever my friend.

Ninja Hugs, ~M

HEALING ISN'T ALWAYS MANDATORY BUT YOUR FAITH IS

I know what you're thinking...."God can heal everything!". So, first off YES He can. But...sometimes He says NO! Yes I did say that! Here, let me say it again...GOD SAYS NO! In all of His infinite love, kindness, and miraculous doing, He wants us to rely totally on Him for Who He is and not what He can do for us.

Unfortunately the 21st century church has grown so fat on His promises and what He will provide, that we have forgotten that included in His blessing is suffering (Philippians 1:29). We live in a gimme gimme gimme mentality, tailoring the God of all creation to what fits us and our wants...and not us forming our lives to His will for our lives.

Remember in the Book of Luke when Jesus was teaching (Chapter 5), and some men came carrying their friend on a mat to Jesus; they couldn't get through the crowd so they tore a hole in the roof and brought him down that way? They had the faith that Jesus could heal their friend if they could only get to Him. But when they finally got there after all that work, Jesus saw their faith and said "Friend, your sins are forgiven". Imagine what they were thinking! After all the trouble getting there, tearing a hole in a strangers roof, then getting their friend to Jesus, all He says is your sins are forgiven? Wait a minute! I'm sure that was like cold water being thrown in their face. In actuality, forgiveness was all that was needed. But because Jesus knew what was going on in the hearts of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, he said to them "but that you may know that the Son of Man has authority to forgive sins..."He said to the paralyzed man, "I tell you, get up, take your mat and go home".

I believe to strengthen their faith, the man was healed, but it wasn't mandatory at all. What was important was the spiritual condition of the man. To live trapped in the present with a broken body and a broken soul would be hell on earth. And then to die in his sins, well, I think we know the answer to that one (Matthew 18:9).

Paul is a great example of a man who's spiritual power and faith turned the world on it's ear; however, in order for him not to be conceited, he was given a "thorn in his flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me" (1 Corinthians 12). No one really knows what that "thorn" was, but we do know, that it wasn't comfortable, and it was a physical issue. Come on, we're talking about Paul here! A man of GREAT FAITH! But what was more important here? His spiritual condition? Or his bodily comfort? Paul "pleaded" with the Lord three times to take it away. And guess what the Lord said? A resounding NO! The Lord explained it to Paul this way, "But He said to me, MY GRACE (favor, sanctification, approval) IS SUFFICIENT FOR YOU, for my POWER is made PERFECT in WEAKNESS." Try to explain that one in today's church!

Does this mean we shouldn't ask the Lord or fervently pray for healing? Absolutely not! We are supposed to ask, pray, and stay before the Lord in all things and do it with thanksgiving. But sometimes the answer is no. Don't allow your faith to waiver because He is faithful to bring us through every trial and every sickness (because by His stripes we are healed), but as a parent, sometimes the answer is no.

We don't know why, and we don't understand it, but know this, "ALL THINGS work together for GOOD to them that LOVE God, to them who are called according to His purpose" (Romans 8:28).

Trying to figure out why the Lord does what He does isn't what we should be focusing on because He did say "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord."

But that, is what faith is all about. Trusting Him no matter what and no matter the answer. Just know that He is faithful and loves you! We are His creation and His children and the end result is eternity with Him.

Many are those who have prayed for healing but they went on to be with the Lord anyway. This is tough to swallow, but in the grief is comfort knowing that there is no more pain and suffering for our loved ones. There are those who receive healing...YAY! Their faith is stronger and their testimony may be what brings another to Christ. We just never know. But a "no" doesn't negate the Power of our Creator, nor does it mean He doesn't care about you and your situation. What is important, is your faith and reliance on Him.

In closing, I want to encourage you to stand strong in faith and in the power of His might. Never give up!

Ninja Hugs and Warrior Blessings!

Message In A Bottle

ARE YOU UP TO P.A.R?

I'm not speaking about nefarious labels that people lay on you because they are being judgmental and they don't know WHO they are. What I'm referring to is are you Personally Accountable and Responsible? Is your life reflecting an example for humanity on a daily basis? Will your legacy speak out loud the benefit you imparted during your life? These are questions I ask myself frequently, so don't feel singled out. Everyone has something to offer, good, bad, or indifferent and it will affect future generations.

I won't go into a lot of detail in this post, but what I will contribute is this. My definition of P.A.R., is a life lived through a filter of True Honor, Integrity, Loyalty, and Courage. Examine the motives for your actions, dig deep into WHO YOU are, and do your best with what you have.

You are a very unique individual with a purpose and a destiny, and the best and most effective way to accomplish a quality life is to live a life up to P.A.R....are you?

Ninja Hugs, ~M

STEPPING INTO THE NEW YEAR

So here we are, 2012. Wow! Did any of us ever imagine we would make it this far? 2012 sounds futuristic and (I hate to say it) catastrophic at the same time. With all of the stories about what this year may bring, it may be difficult for some people to be optimistic. However, looking on a realistic side, I don't know what this year will bring to me, but I do KNOW what I will bring into it. 


I don't know about you, but I spent the better part of 2011 using my words to help lay groundwork for my future and also the future of those around me. "How do you do that?" you may ask. Well, my words created an atmosphere for my attitude, which in turn laid a groundwork for my actions. When I spoke (or wrote), I became very cognizant of not only WHAT I was saying, but WHY I said it. I realize that the example I give people, as a member of humanity, directly effects everyone I come into contact with. Not only did my words have to align with my actions, but my actions had to align with my words. So, good, bad, or indifferent the overall combination set my feet on a path for my future.


The year sped by and here I am in 2012 bringing everything I spoke and did last year into this one. My new year has been launched by what I put into action in the last 12 months. Now, there are a few things I would have liked to change or didn't do at all, but that is just life and I believe I learned from those actions. Thank God it was mostly positive.


So what I would like to do right now, is encourage you to start NOW, while the year is new, to take your words and actions, and be aware of what you're putting out there into the lives of others. Pay attention to how you're effecting your friends, family, coworkers and so on, and actually see what you can do to build positively into your new year. Starting fresh is a daily occurrence, not one that begins with January 1st, however, it's as good a time as any to start being WHO you should be.


Let's step into this new year with Personal Accountability and Responsibility to our fellow man, albeit through a filter of true honor, integrity and courage, and be the people that we are called be. People that are Legacy minded and destiny shakers. Step into your destiny by paving a path for others to follow. Pour into others "you", and you will be surprised at how fulfilled you become.


Lastly, align all that you are into what you should be, and step into your new year with the greatness that really is in you. I know you can do it and I believe in you.


Ninja Hugs and Warrior Blessings!


~M

LEGACY

"I want to be here to inspire others for what they have in them to do, not for what I can do" Monua Cary

It never ceases to amaze me how many people do things for the wrong reasons. Take leadership for instance. How many people do you know, once they've attained a new position in their company, or their church even, their attitude changes from the humble person you knew to the "no longer user friendly" dope they are now?

I have seen this more oft than not, in all walks of life, especially in the martial arts world. 

This is the way I look at it; these people had a character flaw to begin with, and a little bit of power became a conduit for their true self to come out.  Which in my eyes is the opposite of what should be. The more responsibility you attain, or the higher ranking you are, the more accountable you HAVE to be. This is how we should be effecting future generations. Granted, it will be effected good, bad, or indifferent. But how about for the BENEFIT of humanity?

What I have learned is to be passed on to others, it is that simple. I already know what I know, and I know what I have accomplished, so it is up to me to impart it. And to build into the lives of others. It is the very least I can do with what I have been given. Helping others to pull out the greatness they have in them is what a martial artist should do. Whether or not you're in the MA's doesn't matter. Giving of yourself is a gift to humanity and it echos your legacy long after you're gone.

Give while you can, be the best you can be with the little time you're granted, and pull others up and help them to be an inspiration to their future generation...just a thought :) ~M

Ninja Hugs and Warrior Blessings!

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HERE I AM!

Hey Peeps! 


Wow! I can't believe I am starting a blog! I do hope you all come by to visit. This is a work in progress but I'm confident in time it will grow and hopefully become a comfy place for you out here on the web.


There is much to do! With your patience, and me working through the kinks of cyber blogging, we will accomplish a lot!


Be back soon!


Ninja Hugs!


~M